Let's get one thing straight - when it come to planning your wedding, you want everything to be perfect. We get that. Everyone in the industry gets that. But, there are things that will drastically help your sanity and everyone else's sanity (and you do affect everyone around you from your bridesmaids to your parents and his/her parents and your vendors and the venue coordinator and your seamstress and your boss and your neighbors...aaaand, you get the point) if you just keep these few small things in mind the whole process can be as seamless and as wonderful as you've ever imagined...
1. "My wedding is probably the biggest party I will ever throw"
We said it and it's true. There are the occasional few that will throw a bigger one for an anniversary or retirement. But, up until this point - you will have probably never had a group of people (and loved ones at that) in the same place at the same time. It's pressure. It's totally crazy. And, that's why it's best to put on your "rational hat" and find some people who you can trust, who you know can handle the task at hand - aaaand, who you like and who you can actually hang out with. Cause - like it or not - you are planning this massive party together.
2. "The people I am choosing to work with are working with me (95 percent) AND for me (5 percent). Not one or the other"
Think of the people you are hiring to work with you on your wedding as - an entirety - "the squad." The wedding squad. When one man/woman is down the rest fall behind. If everyone gets to the destination unharmed and unscathed - than you, my friend, have won. It's absolutely true and we stand by our word on this. So, think of yourself as the Admiral; you know the end goal and you see it in sight. You know how to get there and get there safely...and how to give directions and how to bring your team together. We know this well as planners...BUT, no one has this power like the bride (or groom, or both combined). Just remember this - the best way to get there is to work with your squad, hand in hand. There is a tad bit of "working for me" - technically, because money is exchanged for services or goods. But, in NO way, should it ever outweigh "working with me." You will win (aka: the best wedding you have ever had) on the later.
3. "Everything is going to be fabulous"
Does that sound so cliche? Well, that's because it is and it's true. It will, it will be fabulous. We promise. If you have done your homework and hired people who you like/trust (see #1) they are going to try their darnedest to make it awesome. Have some faith that it will be ok, no one is out to get you.
4. "I can not get everything I want, but I will try my best to get close - with reason"
Just as in every aspect of life there are rules and regulations. You can not have everything that you want no matter how hard you try. We tell people everyday "we are going to try our absolute best to get that for you." Annnnnd, we really sincerely trrrrry our brains out! Some examples: you can't bring beer into a ball game (most of the time), you can't smoke in or near buildings in all of California and YOU CAN'T LIGHT SPARKLERS at the mountain wedding, because in September, it's like off the charts fire hazard time!! Bummer. We know! We wish we could have sparklers and candles and fire pits all at the same time. But, there are rules. Just as in everything in life. Even if you are paying for it. And the person at the venue will not budge 1) because you are the 756th person that has asked them in the last two years and 2) A fire COULD start and your wedding could be the cause. SO, really. Places have rules, but remember...if the cons outweigh the pros, just move on...
You will get "the one" and it will be as close to perfect as possible, if not perfect...
5. "My wedding is about celebrating LOVE"
Need we say more. We know how easy it is to get caught up in the stress of picking a linen and your glassware and who your 2nd cousin will be sitting next to and how you had wished your invitations were just a slightly different color. But, aside from the little things that will make your wedding all you have ever dreamed, remember: "why are we celebrating it in the first place?" Just keep a reminder close by. "LOVE" - ahhhhhh, that's it. You both have something special and your journey is only beginning and this big party is the start of it all.
Cheers all! And, happy planning to you.
Megan + Emily